The following post has been shared 37,000 times. A teacher decided to detangle and twist a little girl’s hair that she viewed was “tangled in knots” with lint.
Members of the Beyond Black & White Kids Facebook page reacted with various positions.
Yolanda: ” I remember the first time my girls came home from daycare with their hair done differently. At first I was a little peeved, then I was grateful, their daycare worker was biracial, and she taught me that I was going about it all wrong! We talked later and she shared with me some of the techniques that helped her as a little girl. Now that my girls are older, I might have to e-mail her again, lol!”
Jamila: “If the childs hair was “dirty” “full of lent” and “tangled” then yes, the teacher did a nice thing. Natural hair doesnt mean unkept hair and if any child has unkept hair there may be problems at home. Also, why did the teacher feel the need to post her “good” deed?”
Danielle: “If she did not have the parent’s permission then no….as someone who is in school getting a Masters and certification and working in special education I understand the frustration of a child not being cared for, BUT one complaint from a parent could cost you your livelihood….also, kids react differently to people and she may have been okay with the teacher doing her hair and not her mother…I have had students who loved for us to do it in the classroom but would not let their parents at home!!”
Kia: “I would have been livid! I know that my child’s hair would have been combed. how I wanted it when I sent her to school. Therefore If she came with a fro, she needs to return with a fro. By the way, what is she doing taking pictures of her head?”
While the Natural Hair Movement has come a long way, many people believe that afro-textured hair in it’s free form is somehow inherently unkept and messy. There’s almost a visceral need by many to bring our natural kinks and curls into submission. Personally, I love both styles. But the ‘fro is cute. If the problem was that a toddler in you class had lint in their hair, why not just pick them out and fluff the curls?
If this were your child, how would you have reacted?